Why I Left Giant Church Incorporated

“What’s wrong?” I asked.

Since returning from a men’s breakfast at the church, Johnny paced from the living room out to the porch. Back and forth. Over and over again. I ignored it for as long as I could and finally pressed him to tell me. 

“Come here,” he said and motioned for me to follow him onto the porch. The porch is for conversations we don’t want the kids to hear. He sat in his chair, lit his cigarette, and took a long draw. 

Johnny told me what happened that morning at the church. Our pastor belittled and intimidated the men he speculated had a problem with his recent trip. The pastor used the term “poverty mind-set” to describe the thinking of any men who questioned or envied the spontaneous week-long motorcycle trip he and his wife enjoyed with another pastor couple through Nevada, California, and Oregon. The term “poverty mind-set” was a new one to Johnny. After the verbal barrage from the pastor, the men ate their meat and eggs over small talk.

Different emotions came over me as Johnny voiced more concerns. Above all, I was relieved. For more than two years, I ignored, stuffed, disregarded, neglected, then tried to pray away the red flags. After Johnny finished, I gave voice to what I held in for too long. We talked back and forth for a while. About what we saw. About what we felt but never said before. About what we didn’t want to believe. Then we sat in silence together. Grieved and confused.

“Johnny, what are we going to do?”

“We can’t leave, Marie.

It Was Clear

We couldn’t imagine leaving then, but seven months after our conversation on the porch, my family and I left the church we loved and served for eight years. We met with the pastors the first week of March 2017 and told them our decision. It felt strange sitting there across from the pastors, our friends, that way. We communicated our gratefulness to the church, the reasons for our decision, and our sorrow for having to leave. 

My family and I were part of what I call, Giant Church Incorporated. We were highly involved in the church. Served regularly. Gave faithfully. Led teams. Did small groups. Youth camps. Campus launches. Freedom conference. Community service. Prayer team. Leadership program. Internship. 

Eventually, I was on staff for nine months in 2014. 

Our decision to leave didn’t come in a flash. We prayed and sought wise counsel from family and long-time friends who attended other churches. This is discouraged at Giant Church Inc, but we knew it was wise, healthy, and necessary to seek wisdom from outside our church. We prayed for our church leaders; we attended and served faithfully while we sought direction and counsel, and we continued to see what we refused to acknowledge before. 

It was clear to us. We could no longer be part of Giant Church Inc. 

Below is an excerpt of our letter to the pastors. We gave the same letter to a few close friends in leadership. We hoped our anguish over leaving was undoubted. 

____Church has been a refuge for our wearied souls….a safe haven for our broken hearts. Our eyes were opened there, our hearts healed there, and we were forever changed there.

That’s why we’ve been in anguish over this decision which has been months in the making. After much prayer and lots of tears we have decided to leave ____Church. We are concerned that many of the recent teachings of ____Church are not biblical and Gospel-centered, but instead have been heavily influenced by a “prosperity gospel” which we do not believe and cannot support. We hoped that the teachings were one-time occurrences, only a phase, or misunderstandings on our part. But the teachings have become more pervasive. We are concerned about other teachings that have become an integral part of ____such as poverty mind-set, legacy thinking, and Jezebel and Ahab spirits.

We delayed leaving because Marie was part of __LI and Brady was interning but we now realize that to stay and complete the programs would imply that we wholeheartedly agree with all the teachings of ____ Church.

Our decision to leave doesn’t minimize the work of God in our lives through ____Church nor the love we have for the people there. We love you and the people of ____Church. 

Megachurch or Not

Some called my Giant Church Inc a megachurch. According to the Hartford Institute for Religion Research, a megachurch is generally defined as any Protestant Christian congregation with a sustained average weekly attendance of 2,000 persons or more in its worship services.

I’m not sure ours ever reached the sustained attendance marker of a megachurch, but that was the goal. The leaders consistently cast the vision of 12,000 attending numerous campuses all over the Southeastern states and further by 2020. 

Hartford Institute makes it clear that attendance is not the sole indicator of a megachurch. “It is a host of characteristics that create a distinctive worship style and congregational dynamic.” Most megachurches have small groups (typically in homes), require intense personal commitment from its members, and are led by a charismatic senior pastor with an authoritative style of preaching and administration. 

My Giant Church Inc had some megachurch characteristics listed by the Hartford Institute, but Giant Church Inc is a distinct kind of organization. 

While there are some overlapping features, I want to be clear: all megachurches aren’t Giant Church Incs and all Giant Church Incs aren’t megachurches. There are Small Church Incs as well. 

I’m telling my Giant Church Inc story in a series of blog posts.

Why tell the story? If Giant Church Inc is doing good and making a positive difference in their city, if hundreds are baptized each year, if the seats are filled and the people are singing worship songs and listening to teaching they understand, then why does it matter?

Because thousands of people attend Giant Church Inc. The way they think about God, Jesus, others, the Bible, and their worldview is shaped by it. If Giant Church is not telling the truth about who God is, who Jesus is……if they aren’t preaching the Gospel of Jesus Christ, then thousands of people live from lies instead of the truth. 

But there’s another important reason I’m telling this story.

In our meeting with the pastors, and in our formal letter, we named false teaching as the reason we were leaving. While that is true, there were other reasons. Toxic leadership. Bullying. Lack of transparency. No accountability in financial or leadership matters. Fierce loyalty to the institution of Giant Church Inc and its brand.

Those are a few of a long list of reasons we left Giant Church Inc, and each one separately is cause for concern in any organization. They all seemed to be connected by an underlying motive; we just didn’t know what to call it.

For months after we left the church, a swirl of conflicting emotions overwhelmed us. We felt sorrow, relief, anger, elation, anxiety, shame, and confusion. Slowly, we began coming out of the dark. It’s the only way I know how to describe it. 

You’re Not the Only One

Months later we realized what we experienced at Giant Church Inc. There is a name for it.

It’s called spiritual abuse. 

In a podcast interview with Julie Roys on September 28, 2019, Dr. Wade Mullen, director of the M.Div. program at Capital Seminary and Graduate School, describes spiritual abuse as “an attempt by a person [group or organization] to use all that encompasses another person’s spiritual life – their beliefs, their faith, their experiences, and their hopes, to coerce or manipulate that other person into serving the abuser’s agenda.”

This happened to me and my family at Giant Church Incorporated. 

Still, I love the church. I love God and I love His people. My point in telling our story is not to cause division or call out any one church or organization, though it may do that. I think what’s happening at Giant Church Inc is symptomatic of a larger problem within the entire American church. My prayer is that we wake up to what is happening in the church, that our hearts are broken over it, and we get back to our first love: Jesus Christ. 

I’m not an authority on what caused the problems and I don’t have the answers. I know we were part of the problem, and you may be part of the problem. I’m telling our story so we won’t be part of the problem any longer and to let others know they’re not alone. 

One more thing: if your church leaders discourage you from reading this series, you need to read this series. 

Next time, I’ll describe Giant Church Inc fully and tell more of our story. Look for it soon.

For now, I’ll leave you with some of my favorite words of Jesus:

“Come to me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take up my yoke and learn from me, because I am lowly and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”  

Matthew 11:28-30 CSB

The next post in The Giant Church series is Let’s Make a Deal at Giant Church Inc.

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  1. Robin Turner on January 10, 2020 at 4:07 pm

    Great! Such important information to raise awareness and ask good questions of ourselves. So glad God has given youthe green light.

    • marieg on January 10, 2020 at 4:08 pm

      Thank you Robin! We are thankful for yours and Rick’s love and counsel as we walked through it. We love you both very much.

  2. John Griffith on January 10, 2020 at 6:35 pm

    That’s my beautiful wife telling our story of truth and I couldn’t be more proud of her for sharing this to others who may be dealing with the same situation. She is my rock!!! I love her very much and I’m very excited about her journey with this blog post.

    • marieg on January 10, 2020 at 8:49 pm

      Thank you, baby. Praise God, He brought us through it. I love you!

  3. Melissa Hall on January 10, 2020 at 7:13 pm

    Marie, I love the way you wrote this. It brought tears to my eyes and I’m wanting to gut-wrench cry right now, because of the pain that you all went through and the pain we went through more so with Bible Baptist. My heart hurts for all of those that seek refuge and then to find out the lies, etc… and that in many cases the one who was supposed to be shepherding them is taking advantage of them to further prosper themselves and their family. Thanks for sharing this! I hope and pray that others that need to see this will and will be set free and come to the full saving knowledge of The Truth! Love you!

    • marieg on January 10, 2020 at 7:18 pm

      Thank you sister! God brought us through and we’re so thankful for His love and the love of our family and friends. We love you.

    • Daniel on January 10, 2020 at 10:02 pm

      Great writing. Thank you for sharing. You and your family were just one of the millions in America who get sucked into celebrity, man-centered worship. I talk about this problem all the time with friends, and I don’t want to be rude on the internet, but it makes me angry. The manipulation of people and the twisting of the word of God create hatred in my heart. I am praying that some specific people I know will read this and begin to examine Scripture in light of what God says, instead of how a leader interprets it, and will seek after the true God of the Bible. I want to write so much more than this, but if you’re speaking of the place I believe you’re speaking of, I have family there and don’t want to go too far in public. Thanks again for your boldness.

      • marieg on January 10, 2020 at 11:01 pm

        Thank you, Daniel. I am praying with you.

  4. Roger Martin on January 11, 2020 at 7:37 am

    Thank you for both your courage and compassion in sharing this.

    • marieg on January 11, 2020 at 8:27 am

      Thank you Roger. You and Joy have been an important part of our healing. Your love and support mean more than you know.

  5. Wendy Payne on January 11, 2020 at 7:42 am

    This is an amazing piece Marie and so brave. Really incredible. Thank you for sharing. Looking forward to your next article. Blessings ~

    • marieg on January 11, 2020 at 8:28 am

      Wendy, thank you. I can’t wait to see you soon.

  6. Joy W. Martin on January 11, 2020 at 1:18 pm

    Marie, I am so proud of you for telling your story. I know it’s been an excruciating process but I believe your words will help others find spiritual freedom and reveal any spiritual deception. Keep walking forward in this process. I know it’s hard but perhaps God has called you to write “for such a time as this.” Love you friend. Praying for you as you walk this out.

    • marieg on January 11, 2020 at 5:39 pm

      Joy, thank you! Your love, support and prayers over the decades have been such a significant encouragement to my soul. I love you.

  7. April South on January 11, 2020 at 5:32 pm

    Insightful, heartfelt, thoughtful and thought provoking. I could feel all your emotions through your words and know that you guys made a very difficult decision. With that decision I pray you guys are at peace and have found a new “home” to heal and become closer to our Father. I love you guys and thank you as always Marie for your beautifully written words.

    • marieg on January 11, 2020 at 5:44 pm

      Thank you, April. Your words are so kind and your prayers much needed. Our family and friends have loved us through it. We have found a place where we are loved and where they point us all to Jesus. You have blessed us in so many ways. We love you very much.

  8. Chicky Chick on January 15, 2020 at 10:43 pm

    I wish I could say this is a story I’ve never heard before, but I have. From what I see, and from what I’ve heard elsewhere, it’s all too familiar in this area, and it makes me sad and angry. Deciding to leave a church is never an easy choice to make, but I’m glad you were able to make that cut. I’m also so thankful you and your family have found a spot where you can heal and rest and rejuvenate in Christ.
    I’m praying for all struggling with this decision, and for those who have been hurt by any church, large or small. I’ve been down that road and it’s never an easy one. God bless you all.

    • marieg on January 16, 2020 at 5:58 am

      Thank you for your blessing. I’m praying for the church. May we fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith.

  9. Jennifer Lucas on January 21, 2020 at 10:50 am

    Yes! Jesus… our first love.
    I have read both part 1 and part 2 of this series. So profound! It is such a blessing to read a truth (that is no secret) being set into the light and watch how the Lord is working to awaken our community on such a great scale. Thank you for your obedience in sharing your story. Many times it is so tough to share the difficult paths that we are led down but God has assured us that it is all for His glory and He will use it for good for those who love Him. I look forward to the day when the places of worship get back to being houses of prayer. It is time for the church to get off the fence and choose who they serve. As it is written: “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money. (Matthew 6:24 NIV)
    Praying for you and your family as you continue on this journey.

    • marieg on January 21, 2020 at 4:03 pm

      Thank you, Jennifer. I appreciate your insight. In the beginning days of this journey, I never thought I’d write about it. It was too painful to see how I’d be able to. Once I came through and understood what we’d experienced, I knew I needed to share it. My prayer for the church is the same as yours. Thank you for your prayers for me and my family.

      • Glenda on February 9, 2020 at 1:21 pm

        Marie you have written my story. I have spent my whole life working for God in the man made church. I am 76 years old and I have awaken. If you seek you shall find. Thanks for letting the Spirit speak threw you.

        • marieg on February 9, 2020 at 6:05 pm

          Thank you Glenda. Yes, when we seek Him, we will find Him.

  10. Lance on February 6, 2021 at 12:47 pm

    “Come out of her My people…”

  11. Chele on August 12, 2021 at 12:38 pm

    I’m looking forward to reading this blog series. I found you on Instagram and relate to most of what I’ve read of yours thus far. Thanks for telling your story. I’m still sorting through my own story but have definitely been a victim of spiritual abuse most my life. This is so refreshing and faith building! Many thanks!!

    • marieg on August 12, 2021 at 1:01 pm

      Thank you for reaching out and your words of encouragement. If you’re like me when I started waking up to what was happening, you’re in a tender place with a lot of other big emotions mixed in. It’s always good to hear we’re not alone and others have made it through the hardest parts.

  12. Jay Pesek on July 22, 2023 at 1:05 am

    so I am absolutely new / ignorant on how to send messages through a blog… But I happened upon your writing this evening, as I am recovering from an elbow surgery with nothing else to do but Read… And I know exactly without a doubt what and who you’re speaking of – you see I’m a therapist and have been in this area for about 13 years… And I hear this story over and over and over again I also have never been invited so many times to ANY church by people who know that I have been at my current church for 35 years and I’m very happy. They have plenty of people that can tune in from wherever they are.

    • Marie on July 22, 2023 at 10:15 pm

      Thank you for reading and commenting, Jay. Unfortunately, this kind of toxic environment is found in a lot of churches everywhere. Spiritual abuse happens in small, medium, and large churches and in all denominations. Surprisingly, I see people leave one toxic unhealthy church and start attending another. I wrote this to help people know the signs of unhealthy environments.

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